Congratulations on your engagement to be married! We at St. Mary Catholic Church look forward to helping the two of you prepare for the Sacrament of Marriage and becoming active members of our parish family. It was at a celebration of marriage that Jesus performed His first miracle. This is a deliberate honoring of marriage as a union of love between a man and a woman as a symbol of Christ’s own love for His church.
Having your wedding celebrated in the Catholic Church is more than a location for your ceremony or a legally binding union, it is a covenant between a man and a woman. If both are baptized, the marriage is a sacrament, a symbol of the unity of Christ and the Church, and as such, a means of grace giving strength to the husband and wife to live out their commitment on the path of holiness.
The Catholic Church wants you to have a happy, healthy, and holy marriage. We believe that preparation is essential for a lifelong commitment. St. Mary follows a policy that requires couples desiring to be married in the Catholic Church to prepare for a period of six months to a year from your first meeting with a priest and confirmation of a wedding date.
To be married at St. Mary, one or both of you need to be a registered parishioner for at least three months and worship at St. Mary regularly. A registered parishioner is someone who has a desire to be part of the St. Mary Catholic parish community through regular Sunday worship, and supports the works of the parish. If you are not yet registered, please contact the parish office at 248.547.1818 and staff will help you. It is important to have a home church where you practice your faith and a community that supports you in your relationship with Christ.
1. If you have been a registered and active member of the parish for at least three months, please contact Linda Maccarone, Director of Parish Mission to schedule a meeting to fill out a wedding application form and Pre-Nuptial Interview. You can reach her at 248.547.1818, ext. 237 or email her at firstname.lastname@example.org. We advise you not to commit to a wedding date at a venue until you are able to confirm a wedding date with the pastor.
2. Once the above is completed, an initial meeting with the pastor will be scheduled to fill out a pre-marriage information form. This form provides a legal statement of your freedom and proper intention to marry in the Catholic Church. At this time, the pastor will confirm and reserve your date to receive the Sacrament of Marriage at St. Mary; no date is confirmed until this meeting is held.
3. Once a wedding date is confirmed, you will begin preparation for marriage. The various steps will be explained during the above mentioned meetings. Preparation consists of a Couple’s Inventory (Prepare/Enrich) to identify strengths and growth areas of a couple’s relationship and then you will meet three times to review the inventory with a Catholic Counselor. You will attend a Marriage Seminar at St. Mary (or another location), complete a series of online videos for formation, and attend or participate in an online Natural Family Planning Course. A final meeting with the pastor to review your marriage preparation and planning of your wedding ceremony.
St. Mary will assist its parishioners with marriage preparation who are marrying at another Catholic Church that is outside of our archdiocese or at a parish/chapel that does not have a marriage preparation program in place.
Matrimony 101 and 201 Videos
To learn more about Matrimony in the Catholic Church and marriage preparation, please watch these two short videos.